Avoid borrowing trouble.

         I believe we can control our mind by the questions we ask, and we can make war with the questions we ask.

         How do I know what you are thinking?

         I heard a story of a friend with a ‘significant other’(SO) that when asked “What were you thinking when you said that? The (SO) Consistently replied, “I don’t know.”

         “What do you mean? You must have thought something. What?”

         “I don’t know.” Escalation begins-

         “It is almost impossible to not think. How do you do it?”

         “I don’t know.” Further escalation.

         “Well you must have thought something.”

         “I can’t remember.” The first bomb-

         “You’re lying.”BOOM!

         Not my Circus. Not my Monkey.

         A polish aphorism, that has humor built into the picture, to let it go.

         Here is a core value of communication-NEED TO KNOW NEED NOT. It is how not to take on behavior or karma that is not your own.

         Staying free from taking on other peoples troubles, not building mountains out of mole hills.

         What is mine? What is yours? What is ours?

         IS there a line separating you and me?

         How interconnected are we?

Since we are connected and do need and enjoy each other here is another core value that makes life and communication work,  play Yes, And. Pure acceptance And make your significant other look and feel valued.

         The final value since we are connected, wherever I go, you go with me and I go with you. Yes, and that with wherever two or more gather to learn, to grow, we become treasures for each other. Cherish our time, all the time, for it is an honor to know each of you. You are not my circus. Not my monkey. You are friends, support, part of my treasury.

“Whoever has Gratitude will be given more, and they will have abundance. Whoever does not have Gratitude, even what they have will be taken.”