States that you are not your words, your thoughts, and you are responsible for your actions and can separate yourself from any and all identities and be a neutral observer to your actions and events. A Doctrine of Freedom!
Here is an exercise to practice: staying neutral. All my clients, and most of my friends are entrepreneurs, as I am, one of our biggest challenges is self-judgments. The boss lives inside of us and can be more critical than necessary.
Is criticism necessary? Isn’t it all just feedback?
This exercise is in the “stick & stones may break my bones but words can never harm me” mode. It is designed to stretch yourself, intended to be fun, and fall into useful versus uselesssuffering mode.
Call yourself out.
I ‘m stupid & wrong!
Stand in front of a mirror, full length if possible, and call yourself ‘stupid & wrong’ until you can say it without any emotions arising. Get good at calling yourself out.
Exxxxxxaggggggerrrrrr8.
Taking an exercise to an extreme provides the best opportunity to learn.
When you have the ‘I am stupid and wrong’ flattened, switch to the blamer role with “You are stupid & wrong.’ Have fun with the blame game, point and wag that finger, notice when you are pointing the finger at another, three are pointing back at you. Then divide your attention becoming the camera person and zoom in and out on the lead actor, you. Just watch, the intent is to be neutral to disassociate allowing you freedom from reaction. You are more than the role; you are the director, the star and audience.
With ‘neutrality’ as a tool it becomes possible to create Correction without invalidation. This is a corollary of stupid & wrong, perhaps an antidote. This requires more thought. Again stand in front of a mirror and find fault with your image. “You’re too ____, again exxxxxaggggerate8 offering correction without invalidating the person in the mirror.
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