Get the Fear out.

Fear is in one place-inside you!

No one is 'laying fear on you.'

You are not a victim of the audience.

You fear exists because you put it there, inside yourself & continue to pay attention to the fear.

Fear is exciting.

Beats the hell out of boredom.

Drives us, creates changes, magical moments, unforgettable times, can send so much adrenalin through our body it unclogs arteries, leaps us to new heights or stops us from breathing, and can leave a speaker in a stupor of idiocy.

Save your speech.
Move your attention to the audience.
Put your attention out!

Be concerned that if we put our attention on the audience, our old friend, often a best friend, our fear, will demand our attention.

How to Save our Speech?

Practice.

Can you remember a time when all your attention was identified with a person or a task.


A time you got lost in a book, a job, or what someone else was saying?
That was your attention,out there, on something other than your self.

There are disciplines that split your attention between inside and outside.
The Gurdjieff works calls it Self -Remembering.

Firesign Theater had a phrase that I remember went something like "How can you be here and there when you are now where at all?"

In public speaking, how can you be in your program and with the audience, when your scared?

You can't!

You can be in your presentation, & with your audience but speaking fearlessl.

For techniques and exercises to master the fear within:

Gary C Smith Public Speaking & Trainings.
510-722-3212

Namaste
gary

Hands exercise

Public Speaking fear is made up of a number of elements.

Not all public speaking trepidations are fear driven. Some like the hands discomforts add to the insecurity ledger, and become a symptom that leads from discomfort to upset and is generalized as fear.

Hands, what to do with them?

Not every word needs a gesture.


Hands are about security and its evil twin insecurity.

Hands are useful for creating comfort and sending a natural message.

Here is an exercise designed to move past discomfort to being comfortable with your hands.

The exercise works best with a buddi, a full length mirror and a stop watch timer.

Set the timer for one minute, stand in front of the mirror, and let the hands dangle at your side for one minute. Your buddi can help you stay focused.

Practice while waiting in lines, while networking and especially at times when you find yourself with arms and legs crossed.

This exercise also builds the nothing muscle, the muscle that knows how to use the meaningful pause.

Public Speaking fearlessly is about being comfortable, in your body, any and all times.

For more cues, clues and exercises contact Gary C Smith Public Speaking & Trainings. 510-722-3212.

Categorize the #1 fear?

If Public Speaking fear is the number 1 fear, what type of fear is it?

Is it possible to categorize the fear, label it? f

Is it the same fear for everyone?

For some it is related to Embarrassment.

Some it’s Peer Pressure,

Some it’s Fear of Strangers,

Some have Fear of being Judged.

Others have taken the event into a Fear of Failure

Many label body reactions-shortness of breath, nausea, shaking as Fear.

It’s only the Butterflies needing to be put in Formation.

The Real Fear:
Fear of Nothing-

The pause that refreshes and heals.

“Ya gotta stop!"

Acknowledge what you are experiencing.

Label it

Own it,

It's your brand of fear

What's its purpose?

NOW-

Let it go!

If the fears too big, get a coach,

Gary C Smith Public Speaking & Trainings

Speaking Coach

What I Did on My Summer Vacation

It's back to school time for lifetime educators and permanent students.
School clothes, school supplies, old friends, new friends, homework it all begins day after Labor Day.
It's Show and Tell Time: What I Did On My Summer Vacation
This may have been your first public presentation.
This is probably where your ground-of-being for Public Speaking began.
It was time to recall & remember what happened. To find the fun from summer.

This is where the self-judgments began.

You may have found it's fun to share.

You may have found nothing to share.

You may have been too scared to share.

You forgot, stuttered, lisped, talked too fast, held your breath, found a spot on the back wall to stare at, became embarrassed, looked at the floor, fidgeted, hated it and hoped you'd never have to do that again!

OR

From an early age you were treated with respect.

You were acknowledged for sharing your truth and stories.

The dinner table was where everyone shared their day.

Holidays were where the family shared values.

You sang some, knew a couple of nursery rhymes, and read aloud to mom & dad.

BUT

If like most of us, you were traumatized by SHOW and TELL, there is a cure.

That was way back then, and here and now Gary C Smith Public Speaking & Trainings can guide the erasers of fear to your blackboard.

And

begin a new chapter on a clean slate of Public Speaking Fearlessly.

What Did You Do On Your Summer Vacation-
"Boy did I have fun.
I swan,
played ball,
planted a garden,
ate lots of fruits,
made a cherry pie,
visited my relatives,
got bigger,
stronger and learned some new jokes.
"Let me tell you one...."

Namaste
Gary