Self Observation-The Mirror

Self-Observation 101-The Mirror

         The mirror, as a tool  and metaphor of change, because how can you change what you don’t see?

         The mirror is for those who wish to see themselves, their actions, reactions, poses, pauses; their unencumbered actions; without labels, adverbs, adjectives, limits, definitions, or any fence concreting the spontaneity of their creation.

         The mirror a tool to freedom.

          There were many before Narcissus who spied the magical being in the water. Most, upon beholding the image, were aghast at how it cooperated with every movement.         

          The apparition that acted just like the observer, though there were  movements the observer had never seen.

         The moment when the observer recognized the vision as being his or her own, the observer changed.

         A new door opened. Perhaps a part of the brain, reserved for some momentous event, shifted gears and became a curious watcher of the mirror.

         The event, though insightful, may have been a cause of the fall into selfish narcissism, even paranoia, concerned that someone or something was watching.

         For some, it may have initiated a pretense, a show.

         For some, it was an escape from thoughts.

         Others were tickled into embarrassment, filled with curiosity and interest.

         “How does this strange glass work?

         “Who is that in there?”    

         And so the mess-SAGES and QUESTions of the mirror began: 

         What does a child see in the mirror before being indoctrinated into labels and limits, indoctrinations and indulgences while seeing their reflection?

         

          What do you see if you had no limits or labels? 

        

         When first we gazed upon our self in the still waters of puddle or pond the question flowed, like water rushing thru the narrows, “Who are you?”

         The answer never came.

         But the question became sealed in the psyche and “make believe” gods kept the mystery alive.

         This reflection, the echo of essence in the water, shone light from a different source.

         A touch sent ripples to distort the image. Stepping back the image grew across the waters. Not knowing whom the image was, an answer came, “I am not you.”

        

         Find yourself on a calm day, hiking to a hidden pool and look deeply, under the surface, past bubbles, traces of light, water skippers, and see yourself as others see you.

         Self Observation uses mirrors to shine light into dark recesses of eerie unknowns, closed corners, hidden dreams, lost hopes, blind faith, and illuminate for brief moments what is, was and may be, with No Limits, No Labels. No Beliefs.

           To speak fearlessly self observation is a handle on The Unknown. 

Law of Three

          

          It is the Binary Code that keeps humanity in the sleep of the “Matrix”. The Matrix, the sleepless sleep that grants us comfort in a challenging world. In its day the Matrix is how Kings of old kept the serfs in their place.  Trapped in a world where they were not allowed to question authority or use the questioning process to change and move their status and place in society.

        

         On a Micro and Meta level every phenomena/goal is a meeting of three different forces. Two of the forces are always opposing-positive/negative, male/female, force/resistance, and without a third force they can never manifest a goal/phenomena.

        

         A third force must enter, become involved, made aware of (manifesting INTENT) or attention is STUCK on one or the other end of the binary continuums.

        

         By practicing the ‘rule of three in an exercise and becoming aware of the actions of the Law of Three-The Third Force you gain power over the possible outcomes.

          All three of the forces have all three within one another. Active force contain, passive and neutralizing, so you can have an active force that is a passive, neutralizing active force.

        

         In physics it is the third force that creates movement. In our lives it is a type of spiritual kinetics. In either case, it does indeed become a catalyst for movement. Some have described it as “The eternal war between where you are and where you want to be.”

        

         The sacred intent (prayer) can also be a third force when done fully with FREE ATTENTION. This is prayer with asking, demanding or begging. It is prayer acknowledging higher forces outside and inside yourself with a desire to connect. We are so busy with our stories, excuses, and habits we have lost contact with our higher nature.

         

         The Law of Three is one of the keys to INTERNALIZATION-creating surety and ease in presenting yourself. Knowing that your structure is in threes frees your attention to allow creativity, flexibility and connection to the audience. Speaking becomes a more playful game. A paradox appears, the more I structure the more freedom I have. Understanding this lesson in organization opens me to the next step, allowing your body to speak with greater congruence.

         

         Perhaps only the Golden Rule has a greater influence on happiness, success and transformation than an understanding of the Law of Three. It is a law, a ruler of the physical world with its active, passive and neutralizing forces involved in energy and the science of life. It is our options in decision-making. It is the key to freedom in each moment we make decisions.

         It is the simplest law to grasp. It shows in the great works of this country’s system of checks and balances. It shows itself in our desires, resistance and now ness and neutral presence.

Breaking the Bounds of the Binary Doctrine

       Law of Three

          To speak fearlessly it is important to see the Law of Three.    

           As our politics are stuck in a binary code our lives may be in a similar situation. We were taught that there is a right and wrong way to both view and do things. A fool proof (or foolish) methodology of winding our way through life.

        

         When we realized this black and white world was only a map that offered little to help us on our journey when we became confused or lost, we were consoled with ‘third time is a charm.’ At about that time we began to consider a new possibility, that there were three possibilities, all with only one right answer.

        

         The benevolent gods dropped clues to the importance of the trinities to assist us in transforming from the Binary Codes traps. First we learned the ABC’s. Then when we played baseball its 3 strikes and you’re out.  Discovering there are 3 outs an inning only served to support our new found three is a charm. 

        

         We early on divide time in past, present and future.

        

         We learned the religious trinities, in Christianity the Father, Son and Holy Ghost. In Hindu, the Brahma, Shiva and Vishnu. In Buddhism it is the Buddha the Dharma and the Sanga, three is the new/evolved/aware two.

        

         Dale Carnegie, set the stage for speakers with his rendition of the three’s: -1-Tell the audience what you will tell them, 2-tell them, and 3-tell them what you told them.

        

         However we are taught the Binary world (the Digital trap) where we have only two choices, the extremes of the Continuums. Active-Passive. Force-Resistance, right-wrong, yes-no.  And for many we learned too much no. 

Speaking Fearlessly means seeing more options. Our presentation considst of who I am  -- my beliefs, who my audience is, and my agenda -- my topic. 

        Pay Attention, it's the Law.  Continued in the next blog. 

Unconditional Love

Unconditional Love

I start the Pachelbel Cannon in D and sit to write. Memories of thousands,(I am a seminar junkie), of students sat in hotel rooms in meditation, contemplating unconditional love as the canon played. I see their faces, feel my eyes swelling as the music activates the message, the magic mantra-I Love Myself it echoes in my heart, mind, and body.

It is a lullaby that builds upon itself. A simple 1, 2, 3 as a way into myself and a way out of my pain, my fears, my self-pity. A gentle swing that captures my essence till I become the music and who I am and what I may become,becomes a powerful feeling to share.

            Forgiveness, hope, faith in change and a brave new world are echoed by the canon as I Love Myself repeats itself

            A trainer spoke, “What do you want?

            Unconditional Love.

No earned love, no ‘have to’s’, no fulfilling parental expectation, or

succumbing to societies demands, Unconditional Love.

            The trainer honored the space in which to experience the message with a divine space, a pause, as the canon builds from lullaby to dance, a ballet where partners couple.  

            The trainer speaks, “What do you want others to experience in your presence?

            From deeper in our hearts, from the still small space of conscience, from the essence we transform and realize  “I want you to experience UNCONDITIONAL LOVE for your self.

            The healing of each of us, of the planet re-initiates itself as the gratitude for life, for breath, for choices resonates with the bowing of the cello. We feel the message to appreciate each moment as the cannon plucks away, pay attention to the refrain for Now and Forever.

            The canon is a little over six minutes long and millions have heard the sounds whether in a Gallo wine commercial, from the Oscar winning movie Ordinary People, or the seminar rooms. 

            You and me, brothers and sisters, ponder the compassion of self love, we emote-feel again, and refresh ourselves wiping away tears, breathing anew to love without conditions.

            I am grateful to the gods of technology that make my phone cell play that cello tune anywhere, anytime.  I hear the effortless refrain begin and swing the lullaby as love builds becoming the power to share, here and now.

UNCONDITIONAL LOVE ignited by a tune, kept alive by your attention.

Speakers, use the music.

With Little or No Doubt, I say Yes.

“With little or no doubt I said yes.”

               

Willingness, is the ability and attitude, to work toward having, grooming, acknowledging, enjoying, and appreciating will itself. 

          Willingness is a pathway to enthusiasm, excitement. It makes life a party, as in to participate.

          To play is a willful act.

          All I am is my Will.

          I use my Will to choose, the vehicle from which I decide.

          It was an epiphany when I realized that Willingness is the opposite of resistance.

          Does choosing to “show up” build Will Power? Yes!

          To show up in life is a major act of Willingness. It requires putting away being right, ones fears, not being attached or identified with outcome.

          Will is risking, choosing to have fun, to be creator of your own world, be responsible, accountable, even Setting A Good Example by the grace with which Will manifests.

         

         Where did I get all my Willingness?

          My favorite teachers were always Willing to go along with my enthusiasm, and my excitement to the learning game.

          My coaches loved my Willingness to try “it” another way.

          My spiritual teachers were all major players in resisting not evil. They said fully experience here and now by being Willing, you didn’t have to believe what they said, just be Willing to listen

          Where would we be without our Will?

          The human spirit best judged by our Willingness to be the other virtues, Compassion, Grace, Patience, Trust, Honesty, and Forgiveness?            

         Willingness is not who I am, it is how I chose to be, by saying Yes, I can, with little or no doubt.   

Moving from the information Age to the Conceptual Age

Creating Flow-Entering the Zone-Engaging Left Directed + Right Directed Minds- Creating Happy for No Reason-Balancing our Three Brains

Here are the guidelines for the new skills and senses to move into the conceptual age. These are stretches and need to be incorporated into your life.

·      Humor-Is the cure for Seriousitis™. Using the Yes, And concepts of Improv to accept the offers life gives and laugh. Humor is one answer to health care, medical costs, and (duh) happiness. “Whatever arises, love it.’

·      Story-You can’t argue with a story. Stories are compelling narratives that engage change. They are from our Great Oral traditions, fairy tales, fables, sagas, epics, from the Odyssey to The Matrix. To boldly go where no one has gone before and return the hero to tell the tales.  Pay it Forward, tell, but don’t tell them it all.

·      Empathy-Learning compassion. Learning to place your attention out on others without judging or sympathy with a detached feeling of caring for everyone. Appreciating diversity. No one cares how much you know till they know how much you care. Being able to walk a mile, or across the room in their moccasin.

·      Symphony –Instead of a mile deep and an inch wide, knowing, sensing and feeling the interconnectedness of all things. Making the quantum leap of combinations that brings forth the big picture. Connecting the dots and seeing the patterns that ancient wisdom show in Tarot cards, I Ching and Runes. Using metaphors, understanding brainstorms and vision boards.

·      Play-If it’s not fun why do it? The opposite of play is depression. The baby boomers got spoiled, spoiled their kids and learned to learn from games. The onset of Video Games as teaching devices, comedy clubs, laughing yoga, sports as mediation. For the millenniums play is purpose!

·      Meaning-The meaning of life is the meaning we give it! The WHY! Finding purpose and sharing. The only reason to give a speech is to change the world. The Dali Lama winning the Nobel Peace prize and writing The Purpose of Life is Happiness. The correct understanding of Thomas Jefferson’s phrase the  Pursuit of Happiness is to PRACTICE Happiness.

·      Design-Understanding the box, the circle and triangle. The use of symbols like the Ennegram. Branding ourselves in whimsy, or Deco, Rocco, or Bauhaus. A personal renaissance as a change designer. Creating and consuming experiences not things.

·      Balance-Moderation and flow of all the senses, choices, chances and changes. Using the fulcrum point in life’s continuums to make choices. Seeing the future with and without tech. Being a verb not just a noun.

These are the concepts and values which are changing the world.                                                       

        8 skills when refined equates to CULTURE.

        An environment in which we grow-Like a Pearl

Acknowledgments to the works of many and lately Dan Pink, Mikaly Csikzentmihalyi,  Marci Shimoff, Steven Pressfield, Fritjof Capra, Marvin Oka and you & me.