Honor Thy Father

Happy Fathers Day

This Sunday we honor Fathers, including me, my son, son-in-law, all remarkable men, who have sired a child, and our worthy of Attention.

          Does a Father have a special attention he bestows on his offspring?

          Yes, a mysterious form of Attention.

          While a mother gestates for 9 months, cares and nourishes for much, much  longer, a Father may only be a one night stand or moment of ejaculation.

          Whether your dad was one honored as a father of the year, a sperm donor, an absentee or abuser, being a father is a defining role. It is where our male half garners the archetype of masculinity.

What can and does a father contribute?

There is the safety and security of the nest.  Often he is the breadwinner, slayer of saber tooth tigers, bringer of buffalo burgers, teller of stories of the hunt. He can be a strong ‘can do’ archetype,  and I hope at least once, the apple of mom’s eye.

But biological fathers may only be a momentary dad; it is the man who raises the child that can be truly called a father. It is the outcome, the child that is today’s man of the hour. It is the man whose outcome is the loving, caring child that determines a dad.

            What influences can a father have?

As a dad, the lessons are; support the mom, never make her wrong. Show that work is love made visible. Practice forgiveness.  Always support the child’s choices, with an occasional here is an option. Let the child win. Let them know they can choose, decide, act and be rewarded. Share gratitude for life. Share gratitude for them and be ready for the day when your child says, Dad you’re going to be a GRANDFATHER.

It’s never too late to be a good dad or too late to thank a father.

Dear Dad; Thank you for your good works done as a Father. Though you may not have seen yourself as perfect and ideal,  patient, nurturing, healing, a talker, a fisher of fish and men, you were mindful of the fairer sex,  fixer of the broken,  late night savior, early morning waker, mumbler of the unspoken, solid, calm, any and everything your offspring needs and wants. You carried a message that it’s great to be alive. Thanks, You SHOWED UP & paid the bill.